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preludetowind:

"Many of my movies have strong female leads - brave, self-sufficient girls that don’t think twice about fighting for what they believe in with all their heart. They’ll need a friend, or a supporter, but never a savior. Any woman is just as capable of being a hero as any man." - Hayao Miyazaki

Studio Ghibli - getting it right since 1986

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"Have you ever heard the phrase cockblocking? You know, you’re at a bar, talking to a girl, and what happens? Her less attractive friend comes over and ruins everything. Cockblock. Well I have to tell you something guys: I have been the less attractive friend, and you were NOT cockblocked. I was following orders from my better-looking friend that she did not wanna fuck you. …Girls have two signals for their friends: ‘I’m gonna fuck him’ and ‘HELP.’"

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Amy Schumer [x] (via rashaka)

The number of “get me out of here” tactics women have developed and shared to help each other escape from overly-insistent-to-borderline-predatory dudes in public places should probably be enough evidence of the existence of rape culture all on its own.

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YES

(via ellakrystina)

I especially like how, in the majority of cases, you don’t have to verbally communicate what your signals are to other women. I’ve had women I didn’t even know come save me. Literally every woman recognizes the “Dear god, help me” facial expression, and knows exactly what they should do. We don’t get a handbook for this. We don’t have a sit-down nail polish party where we talk about a standardized woman code for preventing creepers. It’s just part of being a woman.

BUT LOL RAPE CULTURE DOESN’T EXIST.

(via eastberlin)

Yup. I’ve definitely taken strangers by the arm and pulled her aside to go, “Oh my GOD it’s you! How ARE YOU?!? It’s been so long!” and then been like “hey I could overhear that guy who wouldn’t leave you alone so I figured I’d give you an out” and then see their VISIBLY RELIEVED expressions. This is part of girl code, because rape culture is that pervasive.

(via thebicker)

I once had a girl sit on my lap and say “hey baby” after she witnessed a guy (who was easily 20+ years older than me) hitting on me and harassing me for my number even after I told him I was taken. After he got up and left she asked if I was okay. I couldn’t thank her enough times, I even bought her a drink.

(via castielsmiles)

We have done this. In fact, we are this. Because we are asexual and we don’t like alcohol so we never drink, we have gone with friends to parties/places where our sole job was to keep an eye out for everyone and be the permanent ‘aggressive man-sheild.’ Not one of our female friends has ever questioned this or found it all strange. In fact, often once they realized we were willing to do it, it would be pre-arranged. Every guy friend we ever did this in front of or tried to explain to looked flabbergasted. They had no idea that this was a) an intentional thing, b) a planned ahead thing, or c) universal.

Rape culture is the fact that every woman understands this. Male privilege is the fact that no guy on earth seems to know or understand.

(via cractasticdispatches)

I’ve been asked to pretend to be my friend’s girlfriend every time we go out at night, just because she wears clothes that show off her curves and guys won’t leave her alone. They only back off when I put my arm around her and act as if we’re together romantically, and sometimes not even then.

(via zaataronpita)

i once ran interference for a friend, only to receive the unwanted advances myself. he wouldn’t back off until my (male) friend literally wrapped me up in his arms and acted as if he was my S.O.

(via miljathefailcat)

It happens online too. A guy I know started Facebook-stalking me after a recent interaction, and my roommate immediately got on Facebook and told him she was my girlfriend. He thankfully backed off after that.

I can’t count the number of times I have pretended to be somebody’s girlfriend or sister in a bar when a guy wouldn’t leave her alone. Both with friends and strangers.

(via feministsupernatural)

After reading these, I feel like taking a shower. Because I’m the designated driver pretty much every time, not being a big fan of alcohol, but I rarely, if ever, intervene. And yeah, I’m small and pretty physically weak, but I could put my foot down verbally if it came down to it. I’m just too scared.

(via harperhug)

You’re probably scared of confronting the guys.  And you should be.  That’s what this whole post is about.  Rape culture is so prevalent and socially accepted as the rule of the land that if someone confronts a guy and tells him directly to back off, someone is getting hurt.  That’s why all of the testimonies here are examples of how to deflect.  How women all learn methods of pulling a woman away from a situation with a guy who isn’t allowing her to say no, by making up some lie that will get the guy to let her go without sending him into a rage and deciding to teach you both a lesson about knowing your place and submitting to rape culture.  Men are dangerous in these situations because all of society backs them up as just a nice guy who deserves a chance, and vilifies any woman who refuses to give him a chance.  Women are not allowed to say no.  So other women have to rescue the women saying no and pull them away with some made up excuse.  Otherwise the situation will escalate and the ones who get hurt are always the women. 

(via coffeegleek)

Women absolutely have to learn rescue tactics for each other, but it’s kind of funny how we describe really obvious facial expressions and body language as “secret signals.” The reality is that women telegraph disinterest in these aggressive men, making it super obvious, but men choose to ignore it. Total strangers who are just sitting nearby or happen to glace their way will be able to see that the woman isn’t interested, but the guy making the advances is somehow oblivious? Unlikely.

(via smitethepatriarchy)

And its fucked because women actively know the signs while men have refused to learn any body language signal of “leave me alone” that women do.

Women are always the one who have to accommodate their behavior to suit mens egos.

(via sourcedumal)

Rape culture is the fact that every woman understands this. Male privilege is the fact that no guy on earth seems to know or understand.

Really wish I could post this some where that more guys would see. Maybe I should start a whiskey and sports/cars (?)  blog on the side and sneak some of these posts in once in a while. 

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jaclcfrost:

becoming attached to characters that you know are gonna die more like i didn’t sign up for this. i mean. i did sign up for it. i just didn’t read the fine print. i mean. i did read the fine print. but i still signed it. why did i sign it

This is my entire thought process during my first viewing of Moulin Rouge

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  • Question: What did Natalie Dormer do??? - Anonymous
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    margery-tyrell:

    Something really amazing. Okay i’m gonna try to be calm about that.

    So at the beginning of April I sent Natalie a letter asking for an autograph and just thanked for everything she did to me, you know she helped me through a lot of stuff like not on purpose but at this time she was basically the light of my life so to speak, and I told her that she did a great job by portraying all these different characters and so on, like a normal letter from a fan in my opinion. But probably not in hers.
    And today I got this envelope. I didn’t really expect that she would answer but she did. Not only got I two autographs no I also got a letter, a freaking 5 pages long letter in her beautiful handwriting. 
    She told me that she never did that before, answering a fan and she was just so sweet???? And she called me sweetheart. I’m Natalie Dormer’s sweetheart ahhhh what is happening.
    So that’s something she wrote:

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    So yeah, that’s the reason why Natalie Dormer is a perfect human being and if you don’t agree you’re wrong. Sorry not sorry.

    sooo .. i guess it’s true, Natalie Dormer cannot possibly be any more awesome 

    and look at that handwriting !!!

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  • Question: What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it? - Anonymous
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    racethewind10:

    journeythroughalife:

    dysonrules:

    aconissa:

    50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.

    It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.

    While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.

    Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it. 

    It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.

    REBLOG FOREVER.

    This god dam it this

    jfc thank you 

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dealanexmachina:

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luaren:

Honestly can’t wait for the 50 shades movie to normalize the manipulation of lower-level female employees. Can’t wait for the new wave of “consent is sexy” banners on the cover of cosmo. Can’t wait for teen girls to think that a controlling relationship is romantic. Can’t wait for sexualized violence to become increasingly mainstream. And most of all, I can’t wait for BDSM to be labeled a feminist revolution.

I’m so confused by this post because I agree with half of it, but on the other hand consent is sexy, sexualized violence has been mainstream for over a decade, a huge percentage of men and women in every age group already think controlling/obsessive relationships are most romantic, and BDSM isn’t somehow inherently not feminist just because some of its participants are very anti-women as that would eliminate almost every group ever from qualification.

Consent is sexy, but what goes on in that book isn’t consent, because she actually says no a couple times and he still goes for it. We don’t need bad examples floating around being marketed as an ideal to strive toward. Same goes for BDSM. It’s not actually a good example of a proper, consensual dom/sub relationship. 

Reblogging because these are important words that need to be heard

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vodkapirate:

Zuhair Murad Haute Couture - Fall 2014

vodkapirate:

Zuhair Murad Haute Couture - Fall 2014

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Please tell me I win some sort of “most bachelor thing in the world” award for that

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gigi2690:

 'I'm sorry' Emma says one day,There’s no warning no context. They’re just lying in bed. Regina is readingher glasses perched on her nose in a way Emma will never admit she finds incredibly endearing'For what?' the brunette asks absently. The town budget is due in two weeks and god forbid it be a cent over'For what I called you. For telling you you were evil' Emma replies softlyThe glasses make a soft click as Regina places them on the night standNeither woman comments on how her hand trembles as she sets the papers asideThey are better now at this. At talkingBut it is still hard. Still so many wounds so close to the surface to bleed and bleed'I was…evil' Regina manages with her eyes on her hands in her lap because she can't look at Emma right nowEmma who shifts under the covers and takes one of Regina’s hands in her own. Holds it tight'No. You were hurting and lashing out. There's a difference. I *know* the difference. I should have seen''Emma' Regina starts but the blonde interrupts her. She has found some reserve of courage tonight and can't let this goher fingers thread through Regina’s and Emma reaches up with her other hand and guides Regina to meet her eyes'You were hurting and I didn't see it and I didn't stop it and I'm *sorry*. I never told you that and I should have'Her eyes are so so green. Like the forest Regina used to escape to as a childThe fingertips on her cheek are achingly gentle and Regina feels something huge and wonderfuland frightening all the same stir beneath her heartits too big for words and so all she can manage is a whispered ‘thank you’ and its such a poor thingto encompass all the ways Emma has been her salvationbut its enoughfor tonight its enough and when Emma turns out the light Regina moves into her arms without hesitationanother jagged piece fit back into the puzzle that is her heart. (racethewind10)

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